Detect Unavailable and Toxic People EASILY

Jan 13

Written By Phoenix Coaching

Learn how to detect unavailable and Toxic people with my Tool!

THIS ONE THING I DISCUSS IN MY VIDEO, WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS!

But it takes practice!! So watch it to learn a Life-Changing Tool!

See my post below for even more tips to avoiding Toxic People from getting into your life.

Curiously and Compassionately Observe Yourself

Learning how to do life after a Toxic or abusive relationship takes a lot of self reflection and ending all doormatty behaviors! BUT we need to approach this with curiosity - not judgement!

So take a deep breath, let go of all judgment of yourself and what you should be doing or how you should be acting and ask yourself these questions:

Do you tolerate poor behavior?
Do you stuff your thoughts, feelings, wants, or needs and put others first?
Are you afraid to say no?
Do you feel you need to give and help others so that people don’t leave?
Do you hope that if you give, help, and please others that you’ll eventually get love and caring in return?
Do you keep letting toxic people into your life?

Take off Your Blinders

Notice with CURIOSITY your patterns.

As you start to wake up to how you’ve been showing up in life, start being intentional with your choices. Purposefully choose to act in your own best interests. (instead of others!)
Be kind to yourself while you start to do this. We all have blinders! We all have dysfunctional patterns. Feeling bad and beating yourself up will not create any positive change!
Notice your self talk when this happens and do not allow yourself to be mean, critical, or judgmental of yourself. Your doing the best you can and that is enough!
Start to:
Make decisions in your own best interests!
Be Selfish! I DARE YOU!
Talk to yourself just like you would a Best Friend!
Put your needs and wants first!
Grab my guide below to take your power back!!