About me

Ive been there…

I’m a recovered good girl, a people-pleaser, and a perfectionist….

always so nice, putting everyone else first, never rocking the boat.

I stayed small and shrunk myself down… every day because even the tiniest chance of getting disliked, judged, and rejected … was too painful to bear.

Saying, “No,” wasn’t part of my childhood. I did what I was told, period.

Opinions? Feelings? Those weren’t allowed either!

I learned that I was only good for giving, caring, and making perfect grades.

I thought that being loved and married would fill up the emptiness and loneliness inside of me.

Well, I was wrong.

Relationships that are created from a “need” to have them don’t go well.

I worked so damn hard for love and attention ….but no matter how hard I worked, or did things the “right way,” I never felt seen, heard, secure, or loved in my long-term relationship.

I showed up every day being a “good girl”…..never making waves, always accomodating, and being compliant, having no idea how to speak my truth and use my voice!

I was just so exhausted from giving and putting everyone’s happiness first… weren’t they supposed to be trying to make me happy too?

I felt lost and empty because I learned that if I was selfless and did my best for others, they would love and care for me in return….well this “relationship math” was BS.

I poured my time, love, energy, and heart into a relationship that was doomed from the start. I was in a Narcissistic Relationship for nearly a decade, which broke me, and made me wake up to how I was showing up in my life. All my pleasing and selflessness were creating my own hell, and when I finally “got it,” I was never the same. I was done sacrificing and putting myself last.

I was DONE not having a voice.

I was DONE betraying myself.

Never again was I going to sacrifice myself for “love.”

I learned the hard way that my relationship with myself is the foundation for a fulfilling, close, connected, and loving relationship with another human being.

Love is not enough, while beautiful and what we all strive for, great relationships have more than just love and physical intimacy.

When you feel truly worthy and deserving to your core, you can show up in a way that says “I’m priceless!” You will never have to work, earn, or beg for what you want. You just KNOW that you’re deserving of it.

Gone are days of chasing after someone,

Begging for attention,

Or waiting for love.

You can create the love and life you deeply desire, feel good in your own skin, and have rock-solid security in who you are.

I’ll show you how. If you’d like to talk with me, I’ll help you identify what’s keeping you from the fulfilling, close, and connected love and life that you deeply deserve and desire!

When you truly feel secure in yourself and love yourself - ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

Just write to me through any contact form, and I’ll be in touch with real answers and resources for you.

Love,

Phoenix